Your Partner Says They'll Talk About It Later...But Later Never Comes
What To Do When Your Partner Hates Verbal Processing
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Put your hand in the air if you have a partner who would prefer to undergo a root canal than have a conversation about a relational problem.
Maybe they tap out of heavy conversations, saying "let's talk about it tomorrow" (but then tomorrow, they sure as hell don't want to talk about it).
Perhaps they say "I don't have the energy for this right now" (but they never seem to have the energy).
Or maybe they ask to "circle back at a better time" (but better times are few and far between).
So, what can you do when your partner loathes talking about the struggles in your relationship? What are your alternatives except to chase them down and drag them into dialogue with you? Or, worse, to give up and just accept that you can't complete a conversation with the person with whom you're doing life.
Marina Rosenthal
In today's post I'm exploring exactly what you can do when your partner says they'll talk about it later, but you know later is never actually going to come if they have any say.
We about to get extremely practical in this Love Note. I'm going to grab you by the hand and walk you through exactly how to handle this seriously irritating situation.
No more fluff, let's dive right in!