Your Partner Wants You To Take Accountability

But You Don't Think You Did Anything Wrong

Whenever I write about accountability, I get a few or a dozen comments and DMs that go something like this:

"My partner is always talking about accountability. But how can I take accountability when I don't believe I did anything wrong?"

Or "I'm absolutely willing to take accountability for the impact of my actions on my partner. But that's not enough for them. They want me to commit to never doing that thing again. What can I do if I disagree that it was a problematic behavior to begin with?"

These questions really highlight just how warped the messaging on accountability has become. It's become a buzz word that sounds important but lacks distinct shared meaning.

So today, let's talk accountability.

We'll get into:

• what even is accountability, anyway?
• the types of accountability you can offer your partner,
• what to do when your partner wants a type of accountability you can't offer,
• and a lot more on the nuanced, sticky topic of accountability.

It's a banger so let's get right into it.