What To Do When Your Partner Can't (Or Won't) Repair

They Suck At Repair. Now What?

Whenever I post a question box on Instagram, I get at least a couple variations of the following:

My partner is incapable of repair. They don't take accountability. How do I get them to see that repair is part of relationships and it's not cool for them to never offer me any?

Introducing The Repair Library!

Practical Strategies For Giving And Receiving Relational Repair I am so excited to share a brand new resource with you today! In recent months, I’ve been writing and talking a lot about repair. It’s clear to me that we could all use more tangible strategies for repairing the inevitable emotional

Love Notes for Real LifeMarina Rosenthal

There could be so many different things going on in this dynamic, and depending on context, couples therapy might be the best place to start.

But, zooming out, there are a few different ways to think about this situation, so let's get in the weeds.

We'll cover:

• what repair actually is (and isn't),
• how to diagnose exactly aspects of repair are missing for you,
• how to make better, clearer asks for the repair you need,
• how to encourage repair when they're trying but lack skill,
• and what to do if like, actually, your partner cannot and will not repair.

Boom, clap, let's go!