How To Express Anger Without Being Hostile
Anger Is Hot. Hostility Is Not.
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I talk a lot about how I have a temper. I am a certified hot head. I get mad easily. I also cool off fast, but my runway from totally chill to totally pissed is short.
In addition to being a hot head, I am also deeply committed to being a respectful, safe partner. I do not give myself excuses for lashing out with hostility, even if I think I’m “justified” because I’m hurt. I hold myself to high standards of basic courtesy and kindness, regardless of my emotional state.
So…how do I balance feeling anger (often, intensely) and maintaining respect?
Today, I'm sharing 7 practical strategies I use myself to feel and express my anger authentically (without masking or flattening myself) while also maintaining basic respect.