Should You Disclose An Old Infidelity To Your Partner?

On Honesty, Intimacy, And The Cost Of Love

Infidelity is one of the most emotionally evocative topics there is (so fair warning, we're about to get into it). And it's impossible to talk about infidelity without also talking about honesty—and the price you pay for dishonesty in your relationship.

Because deception is baked into infidelity, few people who have been unfaithful voluntarily tell their partners. They are typically found out, at which point they have a choice of whether to face the consequences and take accountability or to double down on the betrayal. I often remind partners in this position that now is your last best chance to tell all—do not hold onto any more secrets that could be found out later. It will hurt your partner all the more to think they know the worst and then discover that there's more.

But...what if you don't get found out? What if you cheated on your partner a long time ago? And you stopped. And they never found out. Should you tell them now?

Today, I'm sharing my stance on when, how, and why to tell your partner that you betrayed them years ago.

This one is juicy so let's get right into it.