Resolution Rituals

How To Transition Out of Conflict And Back Into Living

I'm STOKED to share a brand new resource with you today. I talk and write a lot about repair, because it's one of the top struggles in many relationships. A few months back, I shared the Repair Library which is a toolkit all about giving and receiving repair. If you haven't already checked it out, definitely do so now!

But while repair and active processing are both incredibly important relational skills, there comes a time in any conflict or hard conversation with your partner when you need to stop talking.

Maybe it's as resolved as it can be (for now). Maybe it's time to sleep or work or parent. Whatever the reason, it's normal and frankly inevitable that sometimes you'll need to be done processing for the time being but you won't actually feel done.

For a lot of us (and I'm included here) this is a bitter pill to swallow. It can feel impossible to "move on" from a conflict that you're still in turmoil over. But chasing resolution when it's not available in a given moment is a surefire way to make things worse, not better.

That's why I'm so excited to introduce Resolution Rituals. It's a collection of strategies (six, to be precise) to help you with the transition out of active processing back into daily living. These are not abstract ideas, they're extremely practical skills you can turn to in the moments when you feel lost at sea and desperate to feel secure and calm.

Resolution Rituals is included in a paid Love Notes membership (hurray!).

What is it? Resolution Rituals is a guide filled with strategies to help you transition out of active conflict and processing and back to daily life. It comes in a clean, black and white PDF for easy printing should you choose.

What will you learn? I'll walk you through six core strategies (each with lots of examples and prompts) to support you in the moments when you desperately want resolution but it just can't happening right now.

Why do you need this? Because transitions are hard. Active processing is a limited resource, and sometimes life or capacity doesn't allow you and your partner to keep talking until you feel fantastic. And also, daily living is a vital part of how we integrate new information. When you can confidently move from conflict to full engagement with your life, you'll get a better, clearer sense of what resolution is truly still missing.