My Relationship Turned Magic Overnight
That One Time When All Our Problems Vanished (Seriously)
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If you've spent much time in my corner of the internet, you'll know that I'm a realist! I am not out here saying that relationships or people will ever perfectly meet your needs. I post a lot about how it's normal for your partner to annoy you. I'm a hot head—I get mad fast, sometimes about stuff that doesn't matter, sometimes at my husband who I love.
But a few months ago, my relationship changed DRAMATICALLY. I am not talking about slow, gradual progress. I mean a radical semi-overnight shift.
And to be totally honest...I haven't been sure how or what to share about this change because it is totally "off brand." As a couples therapist, I don't want to promote the idea that your relationship can or should suddenly and inexplicably (more on that soon, keep reading) break free of negative patterns.
But...that's what happened for us, and I wanna talk about it, even though I'm scared to, because I'm worried you'll think I've lost the plot.
So, I'm going to be brave and share some recent changes in my relationship that I don't actually fully understand. Ones that have utterly reshaped my life and maybe my personality(??) in a matter of months. Changes that have left me wondering what else I don't understand about how long-term love truly works.