Your Relationship Is High Conflict... And You Don't Want To Break Up

Where To Start If You Want To Heal Together

If you've landed in my pocket of the wide internet, it's possible your relationship is high conflict. After all, I wrote a book on the topic (coming April 2027, woo hoo!).

And one of the things high conflict couples face most often is the impression that their only option is to break up. You fight a lot? You're doomed, break up. Your conflict feels messy and tangled and kinda toxic? Your partner is a monster, break up. But you love them? That's a trauma bond. Break up.

BUT WHAT IF YOU DON'T WANT TO BREAK UP?!

Honestly, this is my specialty and my why, because what I know practically speaking as a couples therapist is that even when breaking up might be the simplest path to less suffering, a lot of couples with significant struggles just don't want to take that path. They see value in their relationship and want to heal together.

And while I am always going to tell you to break up if you want to break up, I'm also going to tell you that it's your life...and if you want to build healthy love alongside your partner, you are free to try!

I wish I could hand you a copy of my book, because I truly believe it will be the comprehensive resource high conflict couples have been searching for. But in the meantime, I'm going to run down some practical places to start when your relationship is high conflict and needs to change...but you don't want to break up.