High Conflict Couples Are Often Highly Intelligent

Why Being Smart Doesn't Stop The Painful Fighting

The high conflict couples I work with are very often smarty pants. And I don't just mean book smarts. High conflict couples are frequently well-rounded, emotionally aware, just plain bright humans.

But annoyingly, intelligence doesn't prevent high conflict dynamics from developing. In fact, your smarts may actually be part of what's driving your dynamic.

Today, I'm exploring the reasons why intelligence both fuels and sustains high conflict relationships.

We'll discuss:

• why being "misunderstood" is such a trigger for you,
• how focusing on getting it precisely right generates friction,
• the insight vs. integration trap you may have fallen into,
• why perfectionism is often at play for highly intelligent high conflict couples,
• and the missing ingredient (that isn't more tools or knowledge).

Let's dive in.