Everyone Sucks Sometimes

Make Room In Your Relationship For Everyday Obnoxiousness

If you're partnered with another human for a long time, sometimes they will be: jerky, grouchy, snappy, bratty...whatever their brand of obnoxious, you can trust you'll be stuck with it time and again.

Sometimes I write about how to repair after these moments. Okay, so you've been a grump, now what? Or your partner has dumped their bad mood all over you— here's how to ask for some accountability.

But I worry you might be left with the wrong impression. See, the takeaway is not: every time your partner sucks, tell them about it.

In fact, a core skill in lasting love is letting your partner suck. Knowing it's about them not you, and moving the hell on without much commentary.

I hope it goes without saying that there are plenty of times when you absolutely should tell your partner, "yo, please address your sucky behavior!" But I see couples struggle a great deal with choosing which moments to verbalize and which to let go.

So today, I'm exploring how to know the difference (for yourself). When do you confront your partner with their suckiness and when do you roll your eyes and move on? Keep reading to find out.