Your Partner Asked You To Change, And You're Trying...But It's Hard And Slow.

When You're Doing Your Best And It's Still "Not Good Enough"

My recent post on what to do when your partner won't change but you don't want to leave struck a major chord. And while many people replied saying, "yes, this is me, I'm the one who keeps asking for change that isn't happening," others responded and let me know that they're the other partner in this situation.

Your Partner Won’t Change...But You Don’t Want To Leave

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One reader shared:

I saw your post on “What do you do if they won’t change but you don’t want to leave?” What about if I’m the partner who won’t change? It’s not that I don’t want to, I just feel like I keep making the same mistakes.

I really loved the vulnerability and self-awareness that this person had to acknowledge that they are the one struggling to make meaningful, lasting changes. And honestly...haven't we all been there in some way or another? Maybe it's not in your relationship, but as a human being, just about everyone has experience trying to change or show up differently and finding themselves back against the same wall again and again.

So today, we're going to look at the other side of the equation. What can you do when your partner has let you know with perfect clarity what they need from you to be happy and healthy together, and you think it's reasonable, but you just can't seem to show up the way they're requesting?

Let's get into it so you can start to move toward the changes they're asking for that TBH, you know would be good for you too.