Your Parents Never Taught You How To Fight

But It's Not Too Late To Learn Now

Having worked with high conflict couples for the past decade, I can tell you one thing. Very few partners in more intense relationships can say, "my parents did a phenomenal job showing me healthy conflict."

I'm not interested in shaming or blaming your parents. At the end of the day, analyzing them will do nothing for you or your relationship. But what I am interested in is helping you accurately assess for yourself what skills you're lacking. Because those skills—the ones your parents didn't model for you? They're the ones you need now to get your relationship unfucked.

Today, I'm exploring how the conflict you saw (or didn't see) growing up has impacted you in your relationship today. And then, because insight without action is not particularly useful, I'll leave you with some initial directions for how to start developing out those skills—so you don't continue the generational trend of ineffective conflict.

Take a deep breath, because we're going back to your childhood.