Why I Call Myself A Hot Head

On Owning My Anger

A few years back, my husband started calling me a hot head. He's way more even-keeled than I am and less emotionally expressive. He's also very patient, which to be totally honest, I'm not. You might wonder if I thought the nickname was a dig, but I actually loved it from the jump. He wasn't telling me that I should be less of a hot-head or criticizing me. He was just naming something about me that he'd noticed, and his observation resonated.

Since we developed the language of "hot head" between us, I've adopted it as my own and reference being a hot head regularly. Perhaps surprisingly, giving a name to my anger and taking full ownership of how it shows up for me has been positive not only for our relationship, but for my own sense of self.

Today, I'm sharing about:

• my relationship to anger,
• why I don't see being a hot head as a bad thing,
• and how I take proactive responsibility for my fire.