Revealing Our Messed- Up Thoughts About Each Other Brought My Husband and Me Closer

Talk Unhinged To Me

A while back, my husband Z and I had a doozy of a fight. We went round and round for more than an hour, which is unusual for us (ahem, we might have a wee bit of history with conflict avoidance). We got to a place of mutual understanding and were snuggling together on the couch, reviewing the conflict. As we talked, I owned up to something.

“I was having some wild thoughts about you! You became my enemy for a moment there.”

Z smirked. “I bet I know what you were thinking.”

“Wait, what were you thinking about me?” I asked, laughing.

We glanced at each other, almost with the energy of a dare. I’m not sure who prompted it, but rather than each revealing our own thoughts, we decided to guess what the other person thought.

Z started. And what came out of his mouth was both so unhinged and so true that I just about fell off the couch.