Stuff I've Learned About Love From My Husband

As A Couples Therapist Married To Someone Who Consumes Zero Relationship Content

I was thinking recently about the lessons of healthy love I've learned from my husband. We're in a really sweet, warm season right now, and it feels good to reflect.

I am, as you know, a psychologist and couples therapist. I am writing a relationship book at this very moment (2027 publication here we come!). I talk and think about relationships all.the.time.

And yet, I've learned so much from my partner, who consumes (and this is not an underestimation) zero relationship content. He has not read a single relationship advice book. He has not listened to even one podcast episode about relationships. We do attend monthly couples therapy together, so that's his only formal source of relationship advice (but that's a more recent development in the span of our relationship).

Yet I have learned so much about healthy relationships from him. I don't just mean what we've learned together, through being in a relationship with each other. I truly mean from him. Lessons I've gained by watching how he relates to me.

Today, I'm sharing the top lessons about love I've learned from my husband, a "regular" guy who is not remotely into relationship content.