Stop Repeating Yourself To Feel Heard

Explaining Your Perspective Again And Again Won't Get You The Validation You Crave

As a couples therapist specialized in high conflict relationships, there is one pattern that I see more than any other.

That pattern? Repetitive attempts to feel heard or validated that ultimately reduce the likelihood of receiving the validation you desire.

I see this pattern in most if not all high conflict relationships. And while one person is sometimes the obvious "repeater," both partners play a role in the pattern.

Today, I'm exploring this dynamic and laying out some ideas for what to do instead. I'll walk through the four main problems that arise with repeating yourself and offer tangible fixes for each one!

Let's do it.