Sexual Bridges and Buffers

How To Find Your Way To Intimacy

It's probably no surprise that the most common sexual challenge couples bring to sessions is low or lack of desire for one or both partners. And I get it! Modern adulthood is not set up to foster desire. There are many stresses and demands on most people in long-term relationships, and while some people are frisky when they're overworked or tired or grouchy, a lot of others...aren't.

However you're wired, it's normal! It's perfectly fine if you aren't in the mood unless the stars align perfectly, and it's also perfectly fine if you're in the mood any day of the week.

But what I often hear is that folks want intimacy but aren't sure how to get there. They're waiting for an internal cue that will tell them "now's the time." But that cue rarely comes.

9 Tips For A Vibrant Sex Life In Your Long-Term Relationship

How To Keep It Spicy For Decades To Come Much of my writing focuses on intense or messy relationships (and honestly, all long-term relationships can get a bit messy!). But I’m also an AASECT certified sex therapist, and I love thinking and writing about sexuality. Unfortunately, social media tends to

Love Notes for Real LifeMarina Rosenthal

If you're in the camp of "I want to want to, but I just don't," you're in luck, because today, I'm going to introduce you to two helpful concepts that can get you from "sounds nice in theory" to "sounds nice let's go."

In today's post, I:

• share the idea of sexual bridges and discuss how you can use them to foster desire,
• introduce my own concept of creating sexual buffers in addition to sexual bridges,
• and explore how you can combine bridges and buffers for a more bounty and ease in your own desire!

Let's do it!