When You're Healing Faster Than Your Partner
You're Growing. They're Not.
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You know you're not perfect, but you're working hard to clean up your side of the street. Whether this looks like individual therapy, reading self-help, learning new skills, or practicing new hobbies, you are out here, doing the freaking work!
But when you look over at your partner, it does not look like they can say the same. From where you're sitting, they are not putting in the effort to grow and evolve.
In today's post, I explore:
- mindset shifts for the problem of "I'm growing, they're not,"
- how to talk to your partner about what you see as a lack of effort,
- and how to set clear, appropriate boundaries (and follow up on them).
Let's do this!