How To Make Complex Decisions With Your Partner

Without Power Struggles or Pressure

My husband and I are really good at making decisions together. Let's be clear, I'm not saying we always make good decisions, we've made some mistakes! But we have a solid approach to how decisions are made, including complex, high stakes decisions.

I know this is an area where many people really struggle. One person might be the decider in the relationship, steamrolling the other with their enthusiasm or intensity. Or you might end up in prolonged tug-of-war over what to do. You might blame each other for decisions that go awry down the road. You might struggle to be patient and allow the right decision to unfold over time, putting pressure to know right now.

Today, I'm laying out a framework for making good decisions together. Because if you're lucky, in a long term relationship you will have many (like, so many) big, complicated, heavyweight decisions to make.

I'll share:

• the step-by-step process I recommend for making decisions
• what to do when you decided but later change your mind,
• what to keep in mind for time-sensitive decisions,
• and why big decisions are actually an important opportunity for connection.

Let's go!