How My Partner And I Resolved A Fight In 20-Minutes

Play-By-Play Of A Recent Conflict In Our Happy, Healthy Relationship

My husband and I were both taking a lunch break. Since we work from home, we're not always available to each other during the work day, but we were making lunch at the same time and chit chatting. I brought up something that's been going well between us recently (how we've both been flexible and adaptive when it comes to who takes on what childcare and home labor day-to-day) and articulated that I want to continue the trend. To be fair, I also added a bit of a worry, which is that we would fall out of good habits. But as far as I could tell, it was a productive, positive comment.

In response, my husband said...nothing.

I added a bit more.

Then he said (wait for it)...nothing.

In just about 40 seconds flat, I went from feeling warm and connected to feeling all-out rage (yes, I do run hot).

In today's post, I'm sharing exactly how we worked through this negative interaction and resolved the conflict fully within about 20 minutes.