Why Couples Therapy Feels So Intense

Especially When It's Working

When I first started learning how to work with couples, I was immediately struck by how intense and at times confrontational the work felt in comparison to individual therapy. I don't think this gets discussed enough, and partners are sometimes unprepared for the intensity that comes with deep relational work.

Today, I'm talking about why couples therapy feels so intense and how to lean into that intensity to grow as a human and partner.

We'll talk about:

• why your couples therapist can't just validate you,
• how you and your partner will probably tattle on each other,
• the way unhelpful behaviors play out live in session,
• how many relationships are colliding in one moment,
• and why embracing the intensity is the way to get the most out of couples work.

Let's do it!