How To Accept Your Partner's Apology

Even When You're Not Over It Yet

Here's a relationship principle I live by. Accept apologies when they're offered.

I don't know about you, but when my partner does something hurtful, I feel a strong urge to throw repair attempts back in his face (and sometimes I succumb to that urge).

"No, you don't get it."

"You're apologizing for the wrong thing."

"You just want me to stop being mad."

But the vast majority of the time, if I'm offered an apology I do my very best to accept it. I know this is a growth edge for many, so let's talk a bit more about how to bring more "I graciously accept your repair" energy into your relationship.

Repair Is A Two-Way Street

Accepting an Apology Is an Active Process Recently, my husband made a joke that hit me poorly. It was the kind of joke he knows I don’t like. I’m sensitive to teasing, and I particularly don’t like if a joke feels like it’s meant to take

Love Notes for Real LifeMarina Rosenthal

In today's quickie love note, I'm sharing:

• The steps I take to accept repair when offered
• Why it's okay to accept repair when you're not "over it" yet
• How to work with yourself when you're not ready to accept an apology just yet.

Alrighty, let's go!